Questions to Ask Yourself Before Considering Adoption
August 2, 2014
At Hillcrest Family Services, our Iowa-based adoption specialists are frequently asked how you know if it’s right or not to place a child for adoption. There’s no ifs, ands or buts about it – it’s a tough decision, but ask yourself some of these questions; then you might know whether it’s the right decision or not.
- Am I able to give a child what they require?
- Would I have to depend on parental or family help?
- Can I raise a child and at the same time meet my own needs such as
- completing school, starting a career or providing for my other kids?
- Am I ready to become a good parent on my own?
- How would a child impact what I want to achieve and experience in life?
- An example of something I would have to give up by having my child with
- me would be____________.
- Am I willing to cut back on my social life?
- How badly would I miss my free time and privacy?
- Can I afford to support a child financially? How would I pay for rent,
- clothing, food, diapers, and other additional living expenses?
- Do I want to raise a child in my current neighborhood? Where do I plan to
- live in the future?
- Do I want my child to follow my example?
- Am I expecting my child to make my life happier and to love me?
- When I am around small children, ask what it would be like to have a two-
- year-old around ALL the time?
- How would I treat a child if I lost my temper or became angry?
- How would I discipline a toddler?
- How would I provide for my child’s health and safety?
- How would I feel knowing that my child is with someone else?
- Can I accept knowing that someone else is raising my child?
Certainly, there are plenty of other questions you could ask yourself, and many people who might be able to give you advice. In the end, however, it’s probably best to get your advice from people who understand the challenges of unplanned pregnancies, of adoption, and who have a deep understanding of how different people have handled this situation. It’s best if you seek the advice of a therapist or an adoption specialist.
Adoption is a process that takes time and is very detailed. Whether you’re considering adopting a child or placing a child up for adoption.
Call us today.
Or email one of our adoption specialists, Jody Ludowitz or Robin Shelby